Some Things We Can and Should Do
1. Stay KOOL
2. Maintain your composure and contain your anger and frustration
3. Help one another
4. Provide feedback and positive support to one another
5. Write letters to the media including TV, Radio, and the
Newspaper
6. Call in to radio talk shows
7. Make legislators know that we ARE here, and HERE to STAY
8. Attend legislative and committee hearings whenever possible
9. Write or E-mail your State Legislators and ask for their support
10. Courtroom audits: be aware, and make others aware, of what is
going on in our courts of law
(As if the following needs to be stated)
11. Stay involved with our children's lives
a. Get involved with your children's schools, but don't be a pest
b. Eat lunch with your children at school occasionally
c. DEMAND involvement at school - Your children need you
d. Get involved and stay involved in other activities such as
Scouts, baseball, etc.
e. DEMAND involvement in these other activities - Kids need their
Dads
Some Things NOT to Do
1. Do not be RUDE. Remember that "Rudeness is a weak man's
imitation of strength" (Eric Hoffer), and we have strength.
2. Do not express your own opinion and represent it as the policy
of DAD.
3. Do not alienate some of the other organizations or people whose
goals may not exactly align with our own.
4. Do not involve the children in adult(?) matters.
5. Do not disparage the children's other parent, family members or
their lifestyles to the children.
6. Do not be uncooperative with the other parent.
7. DO NOT EVER GIVE UP! We can make a difference for our children's
sake if we unite together.
Some Suggestions for Local Action
1. Develop and maintain a support system for one another at the
local DAD Chapter Level.
2. Identify other problems with the system and develop solutions
for them.
3. Provide referrals to sources of professional counseling for
those in need.
4. Provide positive reinforcement to others that they are not
alone.
5. Generate public awareness of identifiable problems and that WE
ARE HERE
6. Work and associate with other organizations in order to bring
about our common goals
Suggestions for Future Meetings
1. School Principal, guidance counselor, or other administrator to
speak with us concerning how best to be involved with our children at
school.
2. School psychologist to speak with us concerning some of the
problems children of divorce experience.
3. Have some of our legislators speak with us as to the status of
legislation. This should be from both the State and Federal levels.
4. Referral service representatives.
5. Juvenile court representatives.
6. News media representatives.
7. Other chapter representatives.
8. Other organization representatives (CRC, FAPT, etc.)
9. Attorneys to speak with us about the law.
The Best Parent is BOTH parents!
"Any great change must expect opposition -
because it shakes the very foundation of Privilege"
Lucretia Mott
